Friday, 30 May 2014

Nobody's Laughing . . .

This whole night time thing with the kids and the bedwetting and the being stupid would be hilariously funny if it wasn't so stupid.

Last night was Mr4's turn to be the silly bugger.

At some stage of the night he wet the bed, and didn't change the sheets.

Now if you live in Perth you would know that it got cold last night, really cold! Roughly 6degrees at sunrise I think.

When Mr4 got up this morning after spending the night in cold wet blankets it's pretty obvious to say that he was cold.

In fact while eating his weetbix he was shaking and his lips were blue.

I shoved him into a hot shower and got him dressed with jumpers socks long pants etc.

He was still blue around his whole mouth and shaking.

I sat him on the couch wrapped up in a massive queen sized quilt for 20mins.

He was still blue.

Mum got him a heat pack and stuffed it under the blanket with him.

The blueness was gone but he was still shaking.

We got into the car to take Miss5 to school and I turned the heater on to 28 degrees and he held his heat pack the whole way.

By the time we arrived at the school he had finally stopped shaking and his colour was back to normal. But he was still pretty cold. By now it was still only 10degrees.

By the time we got home he had another 20 minutes wrapped up in the he quilt and finally he was ok to get moving and start playing.

Seriously though what a silly boy!! I have this feeling that my kids do these things to TRY and make me crazy. And it's safe to say it's working!!

Mumma's gone crazy!!!!




Crazy Boy wrapped up in the blanket 

Wednesday, 28 May 2014

Stubborn As A Mule

I thought I would share another little episode from Miss5 that we have had over the last couple days.

But first a quick update on last night.
It continued pretty badly she kept getting out of bed asking to go to the toilet, for more blankets, asking if it was time to wake up etc...

3.10am she got up and went to the toilet. And at breakfast this morning she told me she had wet the bed again... Well I didn't hear the alarm go off after the first time. I dropped her at school and came home to investigate the bed. We had literally run out of ALL blankets and I was curious to see what she was sleeping with. As I lifted up the mat to straighten up her bed I noticed a giant wet patch UNDER THE MAT. Now let me just explain, if she wet the bed there is a sheet, with the thick rubber mat underneath and then a bottom sheet. So there is NO WAY any wee should have gotten under the mat....unless she moved the mat to pee so it would set the alarm off.....
You gotta give her credit, she's a stubborn bugger!!

Anyway onto my real story.
Yesterday when I picked Miss5 up from school her teacher said to me that her homework reading has been going really well, she's been a gold star reading for something like 7 weeks. The teacher asked Kaitlyn last week to move up to the harder books. She refused. Again this week the teacher asked Miss5 to move up to the harder books. Again Kaitlyn point blank refused and by the sounds of it was a bit rude to the teacher about it. The teacher asked if I could have a talk to her at home.

So last night when we sat down to do the nightly reading I said "if you're a gold star reader again this week, I'm going to tell the teacher that you need to move up to the harder books, I want to see you reading some really good books, cos these easy ones are too easy and getting boring" Miss5 looked at me, agreed with what I said.

Well that was easy you might think.

Oh but just wait-remember she's stubborn she's super intelligent and she doesn't want to move up to the next level of books.

We got her book out to do the nightly reading and she sat there playing with her hands and wouldn't read. Reckoned she couldn't read the word. The first word was 'the' which is the first sight word she ever learnt. I told her the word and thought we could keep going.
She wouldn't.
She knows that if she's a gold star reader this week she has to have a harder book, so she's going to do everything she can NOT to be a gold star reader....clever huh?!?

I had a chat with the teacher this morning about what happened last night and the teacher told me no matter what she's going to tell Kaitlyn she needs to have a harder book next week...BUT she's going to get one of the easy books to put in the hard box...sounds back to front?!? Well I thought so too. I thought she should be putting a hard book in the easy box.

But the reason is. The teacher will tell her to get the easy book out of the hard box. Kaitlyn will bring it home and read it easily. Then she will get used to the idea that she CAN read harder books. It will hopefully get her over the initial fear of failure that she can't read the hard books. If we have progress then the teacher will give her one of the actual harder books and it will hopefully give Miss5 the confidence to keep reading...without ever needing to know the difference!!


Seriously though, it would just be so much easier if she wasn't so stubborn.

All this work just to get a 5 year old to read a book from the grey box instead of the red box...it's ridiculous!






Tuesday, 27 May 2014

Somebody Get Me A Straight Jacket. . . In Pink!!

I thought it was time to update you all on the bedwetting situation in this house.

3 weeks ago we went to the continence clinic and were finally put on the alarm program.
We brought home a mat to put on her bed that hooks up to an alarm.

The nurse demonstrated how loud the alarm is. It's BLOODY loud!! It was so loud in fact it scared the absolute crap out of Miss5.

We took it home and hooked it up.

I was awake early hours of the next morning waiting for the alarm to go off. It's so loud I knew it would scare me if it went off while I was in a deep sleep.
To my surprise it didn't go off.
Then the next night and the next night and the next night...still no alarm. I was surprised. But I was starting to think there was more to it than that. She was scared of the alarm, the sound was so loud and so shocking it actually scared her. She was literally scared into being dry.

For the whole two weeks she was dry-14 dry nights in a row. Thank God for that blessing!!! It was awesome. But during this time I also NEVER mentioned bedwetting. I didn't praise the good or say anything about the bad. Because I have noticed that whenever it's mentioned whether good or bad she will wet the bed the next night.
For the second week I turned the alarm off but didn't tell her I had done it. I wanted to see if she could do it. And she did.

Last week we went back to the clinic and the nurse told us to keep the mat on the bed and turn the alarm off..pretty much what I had already been doing but this time Kaitlyn knew the alarm would be off.

So home we came. 5 nights we had before our next appointment and 2 of those nights were wet!
And after we were doing so well!!!

I honestly believe that this issue isn't anything to do with wetting the bed. I think it's a control issue. I think she's proving that I might be able to control what she eats and wears and plays with but SHE is the only one that can control whether or not she's dry at night.
The nurse at the clinic 100% agrees with me. Kaitlyn knows exactly what she's doing. She's playing mind games with me. Basically she's being a stubborn bitch. (Yes I did just call her a bitch)

Today we went back to the clinic and the nurse busted her. I love the nurse, she's strict she's a straight talker and she doesn't accept kaitlyns crap. While the nurse was talking to her Miss5 was digging her fingernails into her skin on her face. Pinching so hard it was leaving marks on her. She didn't want to listen to the nurse. She didn't care that it's gross waking up in a yucky bed. She didn't care when the nurse said she was disappointed because she knows Miss5 can do better than that.

Tonight has by far been the worst night yet.
At 7pm both kids went to the toilet and then straight to bed. I told them they had been to the toilet and therefore didn't need to get up and go for a long time (another one of Miss5's games is getting up anywhere from 5-10 times in the first hour she's in bed to 'go to the toilet') I told her she wasn't to come out of her room.
No sooner had I sat down than she got out. I got up explained she had already been and to go to bed and she wasn't allowed out again for a long time-she had already been to the toilet.

She went back to bed and squeezed out the tiniest bit of wee onto the mat. It set off the alarm for the first time EVER!! She came out and told me she wet the bed. I told her it's her job to deal with it (that's part of the program, she needs to change the bed herself and she's not allowed to come out to me). She went back into her room to deal with it and I could hear her mumbling something to her brother. I knew she was trying to get him to do something stupid by the way she was talking.
2 minutes later Mr3 walked out. "Mummy I wet the bed too" he proudly told me.
"Deal with it" I said. I was fuming, that little cow had talked her brother into wetting the bed.

Now both of them have had to change their beds. They are both out of pajamas and blankets because there is not enough in mums house to keep us going for long. I have no idea what they have on their beds, and to be honest I don't care.

It took over 10 minutes for them to change their beds and get back into bed. They were talking and laughing and giggling about changing their beds and wearing new pajamas.

2 minutes later Miss5 walked out AGAIN to go to the toilet (I'll add that she went to the toilet while she was changing her bed) this was 3 times in less than 15 minutes. So I sent her back to bed again, as the nurse has instructed me to. I copped a mouthful of abuse from her.

By this stage I was just about ready to lose my shit. I was shaking and ready to throttle her. WHY does she have to be like this?!? WHY does everything have to be such a power struggle. WHY has she turned into the worlds biggest bitch since we have been living at my mums place. WHY has she turned from my beautiful girl into a rude, moody, lying little shit.

I KNOW that things are different here, without daddy, living with Grandma, a new baby coming and moving to Tom Price soon. But there is absolutely NO EXCUSE for the shit I've had to put up with from her lately. EVERY SINGLE TIME I pick her up from school by the time we get home she's told me she doesn't like me at least twice....usually 3-4 times. She won't take any instructions from me. She lies about almost everything. She's just turned into this horrible person, someone I don't even recognise. Someone I don't like. Someone that I don't want to spend any time with.

We have been through so much with Miss5, she's had so many issues with her anxiety and OCD. And it's been tough dealing with those issues at times. But absolutely nothing compares to the full on abuse and disrespect I have been copping lately.

Finally 40 minutes later things have only just gone quiet in the kids room.

I sat on the couch and had a good cry for about 15 of those minutes. I've stopped shaking with anger and I've stopped crying now.

Oh look as I write that sentence here she is-out of bed again. Came to tell me she needs to go to the toilet.

She has no respect for the nurse and the rules of this program-she KNOWS the rules, she chooses to ignore them. I'm also nervous that now she's set the alarm off once she will be 'used to' the noise and won't mind wetting the bed at night time....

All I want is my girl back. I want to enjoy her company again and I want her bloody bed to be dry!!!!




Monday, 26 May 2014

Chubby Bubby No More. . .

Why is it that a Drs appointment is never just that simple in our family?!?

Today Mr3 was off to the Dr. It was a fairly straightforward appointment. He has frequent nose bleeds in summer time, and even with the cooler weather has still had a few. As we are moving to Tom Price where there is a never ending summer I thought it was time to do something about it.

I wanted to get his nose cauterised.

Problem number 1: the Drs surgery no longer had the equipment to do this themselves.

Problem number 2: I got a referral for a private specialist to do the job-only it costs $160 just for the consult!!! Argh!

Problem number 3: while getting his height and weight checked (just general checkup) the Dr discovered Mr3 has only gained 1kg in an entire year!! Woah!!
I wish I could only gain a kilo a year.
So his weight has dropped off the scales a fair bit.
A little bit too much to just ignore.

Problem number 4: PMH no longer takes outside referrals for their dieticians

Problem number 5: getting into a private dietician on short notice (before we move away in 6 weeks) was fairly hard work, I had to plead my case and tell them all about moving house and being pregnant and then they felt sorry for me and booked me in.

Problem number 6: a private dietician isn't free like PMH is-$120 for that one!!

It was quite an outing to the Drs. I'm now feeling like I can see money rolling out of our bank and it's added a few extra appointments to our already busy next few weeks. Trying to squeeze in as much as possible before this bub comes and we leave.

 This whole weight gain thing is completely out of the blue. I mean Mr3 has always been a shorty but his height and weight are now way too out of wack and in all honesty gaining only 1kg in a year is crazy-and he hasn't just been sick or anything to lose weight.

A couple years ago we did this same thing with Miss5 because she was eating TONNES and not gaining weight. At the time she was too young to test for a gluten intolerance or much else and now she seems to be plodding along fine. Although I did figure out the white bread addiction around the same time and have banned white bread ever since then-so maybe that was part of it?!?

Mr 3 eats an enormous amount as well, drinks roughly a litre of water a day (or more on hot days)  and doesn't over-exercise (if that is even a thing.) So it's a bit bizarre his weight has dropped off so much.

It seems that my kids just enjoy being born big...and from then on they don't grow much. I've got two short little skinny kids. But I had two very big, very chubby babies! I wish they were born small and then grew!!

Oh well I guess I have to expect the unexpected with these little Currie's I've got....after all they do take after their mummy!

Sunday, 25 May 2014

EOFY-Budget Time!!

As most of you know I'm slightly OCD (ok maybe a bit more than slightly).
But hey, everyone has their own quirks about them. I'm just happy mine include budgeting!!

And with our ever expanding family, soon to be two adults and 3 children, a budget is a bloody great idea to help us save money.

The end of financial year is coming. And as my baby is due July 3rd I thought I would get organised a few weeks early this year.

I thought I would start by showing you my 'budget spreadsheet' and then explaining how it all works.
It's such a great way to keep track of everything, and seeing where your money goes.



So this is my budget book-yes I know that the computer makes a better spreadsheet. I use my computer for everything else but I just can't seem to swap my budget over to the technology world!

The headings I use are:

GROCERIES- this is pretty self explanatory

JUNK GROCERIES- these are all the unneeded packets of chips, chocolate biscuits, soft drink. Basically just food you don't NEED.

ESSENTIALS-is for all the miscellaneous things that are a NEED. Some examples of the items I put under this heading are; dog food (which I don't buy with my groceries, otherwise you could put it under that heading. Stationary. Birthday and Christmas presents for family/friends. Pull-ups. Bulk laundry powder, school supplies, school fees, Weed killer.) basically things that you need to pay for but don't fit into any other category.

NON ESSENTIALS- this column is for your WANTS. We include books, DVDs, trips to the zoo, bunch of flowers, toys unrelated to gift giving, beer. Also include things like pay tv, makeup accessories, car parts (non essential) etc in this column.

VET- it's good to keep track of how much our pooch is costing us (steadily increasing with his age!!)

PETROL-you will be amazed how much you spend each year, and how much you can save when you think about it!

EATING OUT-include takeaway, morning cup of coffee with friends, afternoon tea at the local cafe, eating out at restaurants etc. basically any time you eat away from home (unless of course you pack it yourself!)

MEDICAL-some of you may not need this column. For us our medical bills are huge! I keep track of doctors appointments, chemist trips, prescription medication costs, visits to the physio etc in this column.

CLOTHES AND ACCESSORIES- clothes, shoes, socks, jocks, bras, hats, beanies, boots, thongs etc.

TOOLS-something we need to help hubby with his tool allowance budget. In his job, as a heavy duty mechanic, he goes through LOTS of tools. Sometimes a couple thousand dollars a year. So we keep track of this.

BILLS- this is probably my favourite tip for anyone. At the end of each financial year I tally up ALL our bills. Life insurance, power, water, gas, drivers license, health insurance, car insurance, any loan or credit card repayments, phone and internet, school fees, mortgage/rent and average costs of car services. I work out the weekly, fortnightly, monthly and yearly total costs of these. As we get paid fortnightly, each fortnight I put aside that amount of money needed. That way as soon as a bill comes in I know the money is already sitting in our separate account ready for me. Also all my direct debits come out of this account so I know what's in our "everyday" account is for us. This is one of the biggest tips I could give anyone wanting to start a family budget. It spreads out the cost of everything across the year and makes things that little bit easier. I know that when I get a bill come in that there is already money waiting for us, I don't have to scrounge around and cut back on the groceries to pay the bill.

KIDS ACCOUNT- each fortnight we put aside a small amount for each of our children to give to them when they are 18 (or 21 I haven't decided, depending on their maturity levels!)


I then tally up the weekly sub totals for each category and keep a running 'year to date' total for each category.

Every 3 months I match it all up with our wages. Writing our net income, total spendings, total bills etc and hope it all comes out right! And so far it has all matched up perfectly.


This will be my third financial year using this budget method. The first year was a real shock to us both. We spent over $3000 on petrol, $12,000 on groceries!! Who knew?!?
It really opened our eyes. And because it's written down in plain sight in front of you, it's easy to tell which areas you need to make cut backs in. For example if your spending $10,000 a year on non essential items you could look at having a finance goal of decreasing that by $2000 for the next financial year. If your medical costs (like ours) are nearing $4000 a year then you can look at what areas you can make cut backs in so that you can afford this more easily, or you could look that your private health insurance to see which areas you want to add, or take away from your policy.

At the beginning of each new budget book I attach a copy of the last financial years totals for each category. It helps keep me motivated and on track. If I can see us creeping up too close to last years huge junk food bill I know it's time to cut back and rethink how I can change that (by making more homemade foods, packing snacks when going out etc).
I also highlight the 2 or 3 areas where I really want to make cutbacks. Eg. last financial year I highlighted our credit card-because I really wanted to get rid of that. For this coming financial year I'll high light the loan for our new car, so we can focus on paying that off as fast as possible.


It seems like such a hard task to write down where EVERY SINGLE DOLLAR goes. But really it's easy-if I can get my hubby to start keeping his receipts then anyone can do it!!
Even now while we are living 1600kms apart he still sends me a quick text saying "$47 at Coles, $18 on beer"
Once your get into the habit, it becomes just that. A habit, like any other habit you pick up. It's easy, every night you spend literally like 2 minutes quickly jotting down your receipts into each category. Every three months I do a year to date total and compare with our wages and once a year I set up our new budget book.

It doesn't take long, and once you see where all your money goes you will be glad. You can save thousands just by watching your money. Fuelling up your car on Wednesday can save you hundreds per year- it's the cheapest day of the week.


That's our family budget. It's been the most amazing 2 years doing this. Hubby is completely sold on the idea and is always asking for updates. Going into our third year we have added a couple of extra category's (the tools, junk groceries and vet were not on the original list).

When making your own family budget you can have any headings you want.

Give it a try for a year and see where it takes you.

You might must surprise yourself. Or you might die of shock as hubby and I did our first year!!